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Why I will NEVER put my children in daycare!

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We laugh when we see a character in a movie forget their young child (always a child who is 5 or older mind you) in the car.

We never see someone forget the baby… Why? – because that wouldn’t be good TV.

We cringe when we read the stories about someone’s pet being left in the car and we feel the person who broke their car window with a rock or called the police was perfectly justified in doing so. We may even cheer about it. We certainly retweet or share the story so that everyone knows just how serious this problem is!

… but aren’t our children more important than our pets?

Most parents get very angry when someone says they shouldn’t put their children in daycare or public school…

But do those parents stop to consider that these helpful suggestions are not in fact an attack on their parenting, but an effort to make them stop and really think about what is truly best for their child?

NO.

This is what makes people forget their children in the car when they carry groceries inside. This is what makes people feel it is OK to leave a child in their car with the engine running while they run in to pay for their fuel. This is what makes people brush off their children when they say they are being bullied in school. And this is what, in my own humble opinion, has led to a most horrific tragedy that is apparently occurring all across the US – across all lines of age, income, education, mental capacity and experience.

If you’re still unsure what I’m referring to, please click on the picture above and read the article.

I would love to say that it is ONLY the parents’ faults but that isn’t true.

I would love to say that we can find a way to end this string of senseless deaths but the truth is – there really is no hope for that until we, as a country, change our ways… change our outlook on parenting… change the way we think and act about our precious children.

 

I see them every day! Posts begging people to adopt a dog or a cat that is scheduled to be euthanized. Posts demanding the cruelty end at puppy mills. Posts demanding harsher punishments for people who mistreat their pets. Posts calling for us to break windows or call police when we see a pet locked in a car on a warm day…

 

Where are the posts calling for harsher punishment for the parents who leave their innocent CHILD in a locked car on a hot day!

No. Instead… the article I read, talks about how the lawyers and judges rule that they will punish themselves enough just living with their guilt.

Will they?

 

A relative of mine, who shall remain nameless except to the family and friends who already know about it, suggested that I abort my son. I was single, having walked out of an extremely abusive relationship but I was not 16. I wasn’t even 21. I turned 24 the year my sweet little boy was born. And I felt sick to realize that I share blood with this person.

My mother has been essentially shunned by more than a few friends and most of our family over the years because she “allows me to sit at home and do nothing” and she does not “make me put those kids in school“. There is no use wasting our breath in telling them that my children are flourishing – being schooled at home. And there is no point in wasting our breath defending me – although she does. At every turn she tells them that I work harder than she does and that she doesn’t know how I get everything done that I do in a day.

She is my biggest cheerleader, my strongest advocate and my best friend! And without her, my life could be a cold, dark and dreary place with absolutely no joy. (without her, I probably wouldn’t have my precious children… and without her prayers and guidance I would have moved farther and farther away from God, instead of having the close relationship I have with HIM today).

 

So why do I begin this article with the proclamation that I will never put my children in daycare?

 

Simply this:

I believe, and I am in the minority I’m sure, that our society has successfully made our children less important to us because they tell us over and over and over again, until it becomes a rhetoric in our own head, that we NEED that extra income… we NEED me-time… we NEED a life that is separate from our family… that we NEED to work because we should not have to give up our own identity just because we have children…

That we NEED to allow a woman  to have absolute control over her own body…

And that we NEED to let public schools decide what our children do and do not need to learn.

 

And that, in my humble opinion, is why we are losing this battle. We have lost sight of the fact that our children are only with us for a short time. Some parents get 18 years, some get 21, some get 2… or less.

… no one knows how many years or days or minutes they will live.

So I have two suggestions…

1. If you want to have your own life before you have children, then DO IT! Get it all out of your system and THEN have children, when you can focus on them and give them ALL of your time. Because you never know how much time you will actually get with them!

2. Do not go around acting like you are married – and you know EXACTLY what I mean, before you are READY for marriage and children! Because there is nothing worse for a child than to think that you did not start out wanting them!

 

And give home-school a serious consideration. No, it may not be the right choice or the best choice or even a possible choice (at this time in your life) but it is worth every consideration. Your CHILD is worth the consideration!

 

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A wonderful addition to your reading list!

The Captive MaidenDISCLAIMER: Parents should read the following post before they allow their children to read it.

Recently I read and reviewed The Captive Maiden by Melanie Dickerson.

And I’m here to tell you that this book would be a wonderful addition to your reading list. Or rather, your daughters’ reading lists!

One of our most difficult jobs as parents is to help them chose the right reading material.

We want our children to enjoy reading and experience the wonder of imagination but we also want to make sure they aren’t confused or upset by what they read. It’s a fine line to walk.

For myself – I know that I have been hesitant to push the more traditional version of popular fairy tales. We made the decision long ago as a family to be as honest with each other as possible. That means we don’t pretend that “magic” (as the world sees it anyway) is real.

We believe in a supernatural God and we believe that he does supernatural things but if it’s not of God, it’s not something we embrace.

No Santa or Easter Bunny for us – unless you count the chocolate kind, that is.
(The reason I stated above that Parents should read the post first)

The Captive Maiden tells the story of Cinderella with a firm foundation in faith, embracing God and leaving the hokey magic from the traditional story out.

BRAVO Melanie Dickerson! GREAT JOB! And a GREAT BOOK too!

There are several others as well and, while I haven’t read them yet, I plan to – soon! And I feel confident in saying that – if they’re anything like The Captive Maiden, they’ll be wonderful!

The Healer's Apprentice The Healer’s Apprentice
The Merchant's Daughter The Merchant’s Daughter
The Fairest Beauty The Fairest Beauty

And I just discovered there is another book slated for release later this year!

The Princess Spy The Princess Spy
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Balanced Challenge Day 11 | March 21: Refresh (Chapter 11)

Sad…The last day.

Get Balanced!
Tricia Goyer Balanced

Day 11: Refresh (Chapter Eleven)

Don’t think balance will happen overnight—or even over an eleven-day challenge. It takes practice, and practice takes time. Spend a few minutes reviewing what you’ve learned throughout this challenge and what you hope to continue implementing in your life. Then blog about how you can keep persevering and working toward balance after the challenge has ended. Share encouragement for those who might feel they’ve failed at balance.

What can I say about this chapter?

How can I continue to implement these in my life?

Well, what I do every time I worry about not succeeding. KEEP TRYING!

PRAY! READ my Bible! Continue to give God my burdens. He can hold them so much better than I can! LOVE my family! READ more about these subjects and continue to seek out new information and suggestions! NEVER stop writing!

What do you think?

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

This post is part of the Balanced challenge with Tricia Goyer—and you can join, too!

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Balanced Challenge Day 10 | March 20: Eight (Chapter Ten)

Get Balanced!
Tricia Goyer Balanced

Day 10: Eight (Chapter Ten)

Read chapter ten and come up with your list of “eight.” Then write down those eight themes on a pretty piece of paper and post it somewhere you’ll see it often (bathroom mirror, refrigerator, bulletin board, etc.).

Well these won’t last long around here…

The kiddos are really great at pulling down inspirational messages I leave for myself. But I’m willing to give it a try.

•  Following God’s plans for our lives
•  Letting God’s word lead my thoughts, my words and my actions
•  Giving my Children a true LOVE of God!
•  Finding the courage to present my work to the world
•  Teach! Write! Learn! Live! LOVE!
•  Stop worrying about my past! GOD has forgiven me!
•  Finding hope in God’s Word!
•  Holding my family close and treasuring every moment I have with them!

What are your 8?

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

This post is part of the Balanced challenge with Tricia Goyer—and you can join, too!

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What is in God’s Word? # 1: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same?

1606986_430219043748235_1965803363_nI posted the below message on Facebook about a week ago with this picture (The picture was a share from Growing Home)

I think this may be where the whole thing about women being equal to men came from – The point that we were made from his side to be equal to him…
One thing I never understood is this: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same.
4+1 = 2+3
They come out to the same thing but they get there a different way. They look the same. They’ll add up or subtract just as easily and they can both be flipped one way or the other but they are different.
Men and Women are different.
PERIOD.
I don’t know about you but I would MUCH rather have a man who respects me (pays for dinner/movie with NO expectations) and romances me (opens doors for me and lets me go through first, buys flowers/chocolates for no other reason that “just because”) than a job where I make the same $$ as the guy next to me. Of course that’s all moot for me anyway because I’m one of the weird moms who actually enjoys staying at home with her children and WANTS to be a wife and mother before I want to be ANYTHING else.

Since this is my blog and blogs are meant to be expanded a bit, I will expand on this thought here.

Years ago, someone decided that men and women are equal and they should be treated equally. I have several problems with this basic concept but I’ll get into those later on…

First let me continue with the question: “Why does equal have to mean EXACTLY the same?”

And this gets a bit into my problem with the basic concept anyway…

Above I pointed out that you have 2+3 and they equal the same thing as 4+1. The equations themselves are vastly different however they both come out to the same thing. You can flip them around (2+3 = 1+4) (3+2 = 4+1) (3+2 = 1+4) (2+3 = 4+1) (1+4 = 2+3) (4+1 = 3+2) (4+1 = 2+3) ( 1+4 = 3+2) many different ways and they will ALWAYS come out to the same thing.

Any combination of 2+3 and 4+1 will equal 5. It’s a mathematical certainty. People are the same way. A woman who wears glasses is no less a woman than one who doesn’t. A man who wears a hearing aid is no less a man than another who doesn’t. A man with blue eyes sees things around him in the same way as the man with brown eyes and a woman who is 5 feet tall still stands the same as a woman who is eight inches taller. Being shorter does not make her less of a woman – unless we’re judging volume of course. (Hey… that was a joke)

Anyway, I guess I better get to the point.

The point being that boys and girls are different. And that’s NOT a bad thing.

It’s a good thing.

God made us that way. And that’s how He means for us to be. He has a specific plan for us and it works out best for everyone if we accept it and follow God’s design.

Personally I like the sound of a Proverbs 31 woman…not just for myself, but for my sweet little boy. I want him to have the kind of woman who enjoys being a wife and mother.

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MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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Enjoying the break from school? I know we are!

Have a terrific Christmas with your family and a Happy New Year too!

God Bless You!

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MOST Uplifting Blog award – Didn’t expect this one.

My good friend Donna turned this thing around on me and nominated two of my blogs. THANKS DONNA!

The “MOST UPLIFTING BLOGGER AWARD”!

Most Uplifting Blogger Award  How this works:

  • Nominate at least 7 (more if you like) blogs for the award. (They MUST be uplifting in SOME WAY. They don’t have to be religious – just uplifting)
  • Write a post telling us who you’ve nominated and…
  • Tell us 7 things you are Thankful about/for! (Again, doesn’t have to be religious – most anything will do)
  • Make sure you let the bloggers know they’re nominated.
  • Wear your badge with pride (Post it somewhere on your blog)

And that’s it!

7 more nominees: YOU Bloggers are AMAZING!

I hope you find some blogs among this list that will inspire and lift you up!

7 things I’m thankful for (Much easier than 7 things about myself by the way):

  1. I am Thankful to have discovered home-schooling!
  2. I am Thankful for COFFEE!
  3. I am Thankful for educational videos!
  4. I am Thankful for our play room!
  5. I am Thankful we live near so many wonderful museums and parks.
  6. I am Thankful to find opportunities to “school” in so many places and situations!
  7. I am Thankful to have such a wonderful God who entrusted these beautiful children to me!

GOD BLESS YOU!

HAVE FUN with it!

And MERRY CHRISTMAS!

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WOW! A Blog award. How exciting.

versatile-blogger-award21I have been nominated for my second Blog Award but my first on this blog!

THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

I’ve only been blogging since mid/late summer of this year so it’s very surprising that I’m getting so much attention!

I really didn’t think anyone was paying that much attention.

But apparently they were…

This time the award comes from my good friend over at
Donna’s Bookshelf. THANKS Donna!

And… now I get to find 15 more bloggers!

YEESH! I’m kidding. It’s totally worth it!

Here are the rules for the award:

  • Display the Award Certificate on your blog.
  • Write a post and link back to the blogger who nominated you.
  • Nominate 15 other bloggers.
  • Inform them of their nomination via comment on their blog.
  • Post 7 interesting things about yourself.

My nominations for The Versatile Blogger’s Award are:

 

And because I’m lazy, I’m going to share the same 7 things about myself. It was hard enough to come up with 7 random things about myself to begin with. LOL!

1. I am a writer, a mom, a homeschooler and I LOVE to read!

2. I talk too much, always have. And now that I’m a mother who is home all day with her two young children, I tend to talk people’s ears off when I have the chance. (PLEASE tell me I’m not the only SAHM/WAHM/TAHM who does that…)

3. I LOVE the flashlight feature on my iPhone. It saves me from stepping on hair clips and Lego blocks on my way to bed or to the bathroom in the middle of the night…most of the time anyway.

4. I enjoy coffee but I’m very particular about brand/flavor/roast and what I put in it of course. My current favorite combination is Green Mountain Pumpkin Spice K-Cups with Coffee-Mate Pumpkin Spice creamer.

5. I am fascinated by Ireland and all things Irish. I want so desperately to buy a castle in Ireland with a moat and a tower and a warren of secret passages.

6. I pray that I will never have to hunt for a literary agent again. My hope is that when God’s timing is right, he will send the agent to me and that way, I will know it is God’s time. I know it sounds like I don’t want to do the work involved in searching for an agent but that’s not it at all. I’m no stranger to hard work. I am simply trusting my future to God’s time and God’s will. He gave me this talent and I believe he has a plan for it and I feel very strongly that he is moving me slowly toward the place I need to be. And when everything is in place, he will move me yet again.

7. I enjoy being home with my children. I am not one of those moms who needs a vacation from their kids. They give me more than enough down-time when they’re in the playroom. I wouldn’t know what to do with myself if I went on a vacation without them and I truly hope that if I ever do end up on a book-tour that it works out for the family to join me!

THANK YOU AGAIN Donna for the nomination! You’re awesome!

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