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What is in God’s Word? # 1: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same?

1606986_430219043748235_1965803363_nI posted the below message on Facebook about a week ago with this picture (The picture was a share from Growing Home)

I think this may be where the whole thing about women being equal to men came from – The point that we were made from his side to be equal to him…
One thing I never understood is this: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same.
4+1 = 2+3
They come out to the same thing but they get there a different way. They look the same. They’ll add up or subtract just as easily and they can both be flipped one way or the other but they are different.
Men and Women are different.
I don’t know about you but I would MUCH rather have a man who respects me (pays for dinner/movie with NO expectations) and romances me (opens doors for me and lets me go through first, buys flowers/chocolates for no other reason that “just because”) than a job where I make the same $$ as the guy next to me. Of course that’s all moot for me anyway because I’m one of the weird moms who actually enjoys staying at home with her children and WANTS to be a wife and mother before I want to be ANYTHING else.

Since this is my blog and blogs are meant to be expanded a bit, I will expand on this thought here.

Years ago, someone decided that men and women are equal and they should be treated equally. I have several problems with this basic concept but I’ll get into those later on…

First let me continue with the question: “Why does equal have to mean EXACTLY the same?”

And this gets a bit into my problem with the basic concept anyway…

Above I pointed out that you have 2+3 and they equal the same thing as 4+1. The equations themselves are vastly different however they both come out to the same thing. You can flip them around (2+3 = 1+4) (3+2 = 4+1) (3+2 = 1+4) (2+3 = 4+1) (1+4 = 2+3) (4+1 = 3+2) (4+1 = 2+3) ( 1+4 = 3+2) many different ways and they will ALWAYS come out to the same thing.

Any combination of 2+3 and 4+1 will equal 5. It’s a mathematical certainty. People are the same way. A woman who wears glasses is no less a woman than one who doesn’t. A man who wears a hearing aid is no less a man than another who doesn’t. A man with blue eyes sees things around him in the same way as the man with brown eyes and a woman who is 5 feet tall still stands the same as a woman who is eight inches taller. Being shorter does not make her less of a woman – unless we’re judging volume of course. (Hey… that was a joke)

Anyway, I guess I better get to the point.

The point being that boys and girls are different. And that’s NOT a bad thing.

It’s a good thing.

God made us that way. And that’s how He means for us to be. He has a specific plan for us and it works out best for everyone if we accept it and follow God’s design.

Personally I like the sound of a Proverbs 31 woman…not just for myself, but for my sweet little boy. I want him to have the kind of woman who enjoys being a wife and mother.

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Is Passive Aggression Abuse?


This is something I feel is a very important issue for moms to keep an eye out for.

This is something I feel very strongly about. And personally, I feel that passive aggression can be abuse. Not all of it obviously but often abuse is in the eye of the abused. And sometimes, what looks like abuse to one person will not look like abuse to others (on the flip side of that are the rare exceptions when what looks like abuse to others is actually NOT abuse… it’s rare but it does happen).

Yes, I speak from experience – and when I say that, I mean that I have been the subject of conversations between people who had absolutely nothing to do with the original “incident” that started out as mildly passive aggressive and went all the way to people wanting to find me and beat me up over something as simple as a difference in lifestyle choice.

Yes, you read that right… a lifestyle choice. That’s it.

I have also been the subject of more than one verbal attack over my choice in religion/literature/music/parenting/clothing choice/etc… Everyone has an opinion about everything people do and unfortunately, some people are determined to make sure you know that their opinion is right, your opinion is wrong and that you should change sides immediately.

Just one of many examples: I did not enjoy high-school. That experience started out well enough, surprisingly. However, a change in schools and income level made my high-school life somewhere between that joke about the toilet paper and the one about the chocolate Easter bunnies.

In other words, not fun.

Since high-school, I have been through two rather nasty divorces and several other failed relationships, none of which were entirely anyone’s fault. But it is difficult to make yourself stay with someone who thinks you are their verbal or physical punching bag, And, for some reason, a lot of people don’t see Psychological or Emotional abuse as actual abuse unless there’s some physical thrown in there as well but let me assure you, IT IS abuse and I have had more than my fair share of experience with passive-aggressive behavior in those type of situations.

Which is one reason I try so hard NOT to do it myself.

Mothers: it is so very important to keep a close monitor on what your children are doing online, what movies they’re watching, what books they’re reading. I’m not talking about control. I’m talking about common sense and safety. You can’t spout this nonsense about giving your children their freedom and then get upset when they are bullied to death or worse, bully someone to death.

There are too many true stories about a teen or even a pre-teen who commits suicide over things said to them and about them online.

Thankfully I was not online much when I was in high-school. If I had been in the middle of some of the conversations I have to deal with now… then, I probably wouldn’t be sitting here typing this right now. Because my peers were not my friends.

So I implore you parents: Please monitor your children closely. Make sure you know who they are talking to online, what they are talking about and then make sure you take the time to discuss anything that could be misconstrued or misunderstood with them until you’re sure they know what is real and true.

And above all else, PLEASE make sure they know how loved they are.


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God Bless You!

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A view of Miley Cyrus’s latest behavior that may not be very popular.

Philippians 4 8

I have been sitting on this opinion for days but it feels more and more important that people who have a valid point, should make theirs known.

Disclaimer: I will not be posting any pictures of Miley’s recent performance so if you came here looking for that, you’ll probably be going now.

I read a blog post this morning that condoned and applauded Miley Cyrus for her recent behavior and I feel compelled to respond. Before anyone goes off half-cocked, the author of said blog post has already conceded that the behavior was questionable. She was merely condoning Miley’s right, as a woman, to do such a thing.

I would like to address this point first.
It is my belief that many people in this world today have lost the meaning behind the different roles of men and women in the world, in society and in life. One of the problems is, I’m certain, the devil himself. He is the father of lies and the master of confusion. And the more he can confuse people in general, the easier his work becomes. However one of the problems is most definitely the different translations of the bible. I realize that the Olde English is not easy for everyone. In fact, it’s not always easy for me. However, the Authorized King James Translation was taken upon very seriously. And it took years… yes years for them to translate the original languages into one. This was not because of a lack in technology or resources but due to the fact that every single verse was painstakingly studied by multiple translators. They wanted to make sure they got it RIGHT.


Proverbs 31:26-31 ESV:
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. …

Proverbs 31: 26-31 KJV:
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

I could spend all day on every nuance that has been missed here. But I won’t. If you look, REALLY look, you can see what has been missed and what has been incorrectly translated.

So back to the point at hand.

Why do I consider Miley Cyrus’s behavior completely inappropriate, lewd, disgusting and an affront to all things good and decent in this world?

I do not care one single solitary bit that she is a young woman doing these things. I would be JUST AS disgusted by a man behaving this way. But our society has been exposed to these sorts of things so much, we can’t even see it for what it really is: one more step toward desensitization to true evil.

Yes, the Smith family was shocked. Yes, millions of people have commented negatively. But think of this. Does Twitter care? Does Google care? Does Facebook care? Does MTV care?

They care about likes, page views, tweets, ratings. They care about how many people watched it live, watched it later on YouTube, how many people are talking about it, tweeting about it, texting about it, liking pages talking about it. Facebook, Google, Twitter and MTV are doing a happy dance right now because this subject is on everybody’s pages and unfortunately in their mouths and minds.

Eventually, all anyone will remember about it is how controversial it was.

I miss the days when Miley skipping out on an event in New York City (Hannah Montana: The Movie) was the biggest concern on anybody’s mind. I miss the days when it was shocking to see Miley in all black with a frown perpetually on her face (The Last Song). I miss the days when she sang a duet with John Travolta (Bolt) and that was the biggest, most exciting thing she’d ever done!

I miss the days when young people got to be young people. The days when we didn’t encourage our children to grow up so fast AND to do it in front of the world via social media. I’m still working on this with my two young children. We do not have cable. We do not have Internet (except on our phones and we have ABSOLUTE control over those AT ALL TIMES). We feel it is more important to give the children time to play, time to read, time to BE children!

Parental controls may be fine for some people but more and more things are becoming “PG” or “PG-13” that I do NOT want my young children seeing… EVER if I can help it. And this latest experience is another one of them. It aired LIVE on MTV, a channel that almost every cable carrier supplies as part of a basic package. How many young children saw this that night? Can they ever get those images out of their head? Will they ever be able to think of Miley Cyrus again without going back to that event in their mind?

Colossians 3 2

No. And neither will I unfortunately. And not because I watched it on TV or even on YouTube but because I clicked on a link for an article speaking against her behavior. I didn’t for one second think there would be a picture there. I was wrong.

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God Bless You!

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