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Why I will NEVER put my children in daycare!

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We laugh when we see a character in a movie forget their young child (always a child who is 5 or older mind you) in the car.

We never see someone forget the baby… Why? – because that wouldn’t be good TV.

We cringe when we read the stories about someone’s pet being left in the car and we feel the person who broke their car window with a rock or called the police was perfectly justified in doing so. We may even cheer about it. We certainly retweet or share the story so that everyone knows just how serious this problem is!

… but aren’t our children more important than our pets?

Most parents get very angry when someone says they shouldn’t put their children in daycare or public school…

But do those parents stop to consider that these helpful suggestions are not in fact an attack on their parenting, but an effort to make them stop and really think about what is truly best for their child?

NO.

This is what makes people forget their children in the car when they carry groceries inside. This is what makes people feel it is OK to leave a child in their car with the engine running while they run in to pay for their fuel. This is what makes people brush off their children when they say they are being bullied in school. And this is what, in my own humble opinion, has led to a most horrific tragedy that is apparently occurring all across the US – across all lines of age, income, education, mental capacity and experience.

If you’re still unsure what I’m referring to, please click on the picture above and read the article.

I would love to say that it is ONLY the parents’ faults but that isn’t true.

I would love to say that we can find a way to end this string of senseless deaths but the truth is – there really is no hope for that until we, as a country, change our ways… change our outlook on parenting… change the way we think and act about our precious children.

 

I see them every day! Posts begging people to adopt a dog or a cat that is scheduled to be euthanized. Posts demanding the cruelty end at puppy mills. Posts demanding harsher punishments for people who mistreat their pets. Posts calling for us to break windows or call police when we see a pet locked in a car on a warm day…

 

Where are the posts calling for harsher punishment for the parents who leave their innocent CHILD in a locked car on a hot day!

No. Instead… the article I read, talks about how the lawyers and judges rule that they will punish themselves enough just living with their guilt.

Will they?

 

A relative of mine, who shall remain nameless except to the family and friends who already know about it, suggested that I abort my son. I was single, having walked out of an extremely abusive relationship but I was not 16. I wasn’t even 21. I turned 24 the year my sweet little boy was born. And I felt sick to realize that I share blood with this person.

My mother has been essentially shunned by more than a few friends and most of our family over the years because she “allows me to sit at home and do nothing” and she does not “make me put those kids in school“. There is no use wasting our breath in telling them that my children are flourishing – being schooled at home. And there is no point in wasting our breath defending me – although she does. At every turn she tells them that I work harder than she does and that she doesn’t know how I get everything done that I do in a day.

She is my biggest cheerleader, my strongest advocate and my best friend! And without her, my life could be a cold, dark and dreary place with absolutely no joy. (without her, I probably wouldn’t have my precious children… and without her prayers and guidance I would have moved farther and farther away from God, instead of having the close relationship I have with HIM today).

 

So why do I begin this article with the proclamation that I will never put my children in daycare?

 

Simply this:

I believe, and I am in the minority I’m sure, that our society has successfully made our children less important to us because they tell us over and over and over again, until it becomes a rhetoric in our own head, that we NEED that extra income… we NEED me-time… we NEED a life that is separate from our family… that we NEED to work because we should not have to give up our own identity just because we have children…

That we NEED to allow a woman  to have absolute control over her own body…

And that we NEED to let public schools decide what our children do and do not need to learn.

 

And that, in my humble opinion, is why we are losing this battle. We have lost sight of the fact that our children are only with us for a short time. Some parents get 18 years, some get 21, some get 2… or less.

… no one knows how many years or days or minutes they will live.

So I have two suggestions…

1. If you want to have your own life before you have children, then DO IT! Get it all out of your system and THEN have children, when you can focus on them and give them ALL of your time. Because you never know how much time you will actually get with them!

2. Do not go around acting like you are married – and you know EXACTLY what I mean, before you are READY for marriage and children! Because there is nothing worse for a child than to think that you did not start out wanting them!

 

And give home-school a serious consideration. No, it may not be the right choice or the best choice or even a possible choice (at this time in your life) but it is worth every consideration. Your CHILD is worth the consideration!

 

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Balanced Challenge Day 11 | March 21: Refresh (Chapter 11)

Sad…The last day.

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Day 11: Refresh (Chapter Eleven)

Don’t think balance will happen overnight—or even over an eleven-day challenge. It takes practice, and practice takes time. Spend a few minutes reviewing what you’ve learned throughout this challenge and what you hope to continue implementing in your life. Then blog about how you can keep persevering and working toward balance after the challenge has ended. Share encouragement for those who might feel they’ve failed at balance.

What can I say about this chapter?

How can I continue to implement these in my life?

Well, what I do every time I worry about not succeeding. KEEP TRYING!

PRAY! READ my Bible! Continue to give God my burdens. He can hold them so much better than I can! LOVE my family! READ more about these subjects and continue to seek out new information and suggestions! NEVER stop writing!

What do you think?

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 10 | March 20: Eight (Chapter Ten)

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Day 10: Eight (Chapter Ten)

Read chapter ten and come up with your list of “eight.” Then write down those eight themes on a pretty piece of paper and post it somewhere you’ll see it often (bathroom mirror, refrigerator, bulletin board, etc.).

Well these won’t last long around here…

The kiddos are really great at pulling down inspirational messages I leave for myself. But I’m willing to give it a try.

•  Following God’s plans for our lives
•  Letting God’s word lead my thoughts, my words and my actions
•  Giving my Children a true LOVE of God!
•  Finding the courage to present my work to the world
•  Teach! Write! Learn! Live! LOVE!
•  Stop worrying about my past! GOD has forgiven me!
•  Finding hope in God’s Word!
•  Holding my family close and treasuring every moment I have with them!

What are your 8?

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 9 | March 19: Inspiration and Relaxation (Chapter Nine)

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Day 9: Inspiration and Relaxation (Chapter Nine)

Give your mind a rest and a dose of good, old-fashioned inspiration. Carve out some time today to implement one of my tips about finding inspiration and enjoy the feeling of creativity. Then come up with your own list of ways you can find inspiration and share those on your blog.

The inspiration part I usually don’t have any trouble with.

But the relaxation – For me, even when we take our yearly trek to Myrtle Beach, I don’t fully relax. I have two kids to keep up with at a beach. Who could relax? But I really LOVE Tricia’s suggestions here. I plan to try each one of them at some point or other in the future. Might be fun to take them in turns until I figure out which ones work for me.

I might even come back later and have a list I’ve come up with myself.

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 8 | March 18: (Chapter Eight)

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Day 8: Make Today Amazing (Chapter Eight)

Take one of my tips to make today amazing (toward the end of the chapter in Balanced) and implement it today. Did you notice a difference in your attitude? What changed? Blog about it!

Which one did I do today?

All of them. Well, almost all of them. I’m a single mom so I don’t have a husband but I hugged MOM and my kiddos! And, at the moment there aren’t any clothes I can give away but I’m working on that too!

I don’t always remember to read the Bible but we’re doing better with it this year than ever before. I work really hard to Thank God every day for the many many blessings he has bestowed on my family!

And the relaxing… well – that’s my reading time!

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 7 | March 17: Teamwork (Chapter Seven)

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Day 7: Teamwork (Chapter Seven)

Many hands make light work—and moms, you shouldn’t feel the need to do everything yourself. Schedule a quick family meeting today to talk to your kids and spouse about the responsibilities you all can share to make your load a bit lighter. Blog about what task was given to whom.

We have been working on this one!

I admit I am not great with it. For too many years, I was the one who did everything around the house – Mom worked so I did most of the cooking, cleaning and wrangling my brother. The role has shifted slightly but really not that much. Mom still works. I take care of the house, the cooking and I wrangle the kiddos. Throw in home-schooling, writing, running errands and helping Mom when she’s home and it makes for a busy day.

And trust me when I say, I tried having the munchkins help out when they were little. It was nice to have help but it almost always took three times as long to get anything done and since, like I jokingly say about mom, I have very little patience – I tend to let them go play and do it all myself.

Thankfully the kiddos are getting older and they’re starting to help out more and more…when I let them. 🙂

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 6 | March 16: Do What You Can (Chapter Six)

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Day 6: Do What You Can (Chapter Six)

Do you have an extra fifteen minutes before you need to hop in the car to pick up your kids? Make the most of them! Do a little laundry, organize a stack of papers, do a quick sweep of the kitchen. Those five, ten, and fifteen minutes add up throughout the day! Take advantage of them today and write about your experience and all you got done in today’s blog post.

Now this is one area I AM good at!

I am the master at the “last-minute clean”. I excel at fitting things into places no one else would think they could fit! I am fantastic at planning trips so that we don’t backtrack too much. I think of where we need to go that day and I fit things in along the route.

It stems from a very tight budget but it also stems from a busy lifestyle.

Unfortunately, since I am not great at scheduling time, it also means I’m late a lot so that part needs some work.

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 5| March 15: Rank These Priorities (Chapter Five)

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Day 5: Rank Those Priorities (Chapter Five)

At the end of chapter five, there’s a ranking system to help you form your calendar before you fill it. Using the ranking system, revamp your calendar, then take a picture of it to post on your blog. Write a few sentences about what you’re giving up to fill instead with what’s truly important.

This one is a bit tricky for me.

I have never been good at making a calendar and sticking to it. Last year for Christmas, Mom bought me an iPhone. It has taken months for me to really start using the calendar feature. And, to be honest, most of what is there are the blog tour dates for the books I review and the date my post is supposed to go up. Otherwise, Mom uses texts to remind me of things I need to get done throughout the day.

I lean on her so much for so many little things. I seriously could not get everything I do manage to get done, accomplished without her. She is the organizer in our family. She is the planner and she is my go-to for so much.

It’s definitely an area I need to work on.

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 4| March 14: Believing God (Chapter Four)

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Day 4: Believing God (Chapter Four)

What have you been called by God to do? Take a few minutes away from work and family to sit with your Bible and talk to God. Believe that God placed your dreams and passions in your heart. Find a verse that speaks to you about this, and post it today on your blog.

I have actually spent a lot of time pondering this lately.

My mom tells me God has gifted me with an amazing ability to write. My kids tell me they’re blessed to have me as a mom. My mom and my kids tell me I’m doing exactly what God wants me to do by home-schooling.

I feel compelled to write. I feel compelled home-school. I am a mom (I don’t believe that is a calling – it’s a gift) But I also try to listen daily to God’s voice (through the spirit). I haven’t always been the best at listening and I haven’t always obeyed even when I have heard but I am trying daily now to do both.

I am blessed to have such an amazing family! They encourage me and they work alongside me to get closer to God.

My son is a prophet (spiritual gift) and he never hesitates to let me know when I need to work on something (IN LOVE) and he is the first one I go to when I’m not sure which side of the line a book or a movie falls. He’s very quick to tell me whether it’s appropriate or not.

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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Balanced Challenge Day 3| March 13: Get Your Kids Involved (Chapter Three)

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Day 3: Get Your Kids Involved (Chapter Three)

How can you get your kids involved in what you’re working on? How can they experience what your job is like and contribute to it? For me, that meant allowing my kids to come with me on research trips or to meet people I was interviewing. Write a blog post about different ways you can involve your kids in your job, then stop by others’ blogs to see if you can use their ideas with this task!

My kids are already VERY INVOLVED!

They spend a lot of time each day asking me how many words I have, giving me ideas about things to add in (some of them are a little silly but they are 7 and 10) and telling me I can do it – when I want to quit.

They are my BEST cheerleaders!

I am also blessed to have an amazing mom! (I think I mentioned that before) She encourages me so much and I couldn’t do any of this without her! No she’s not one of the kids but she can’t be left out of the important area of how my family encourages me!

Currently, I don’t get a whole lot of writing done every day but if I get a thousand words a day, I’m happy. And no, I don’t always get a thousand words a day. But I’m  mom. I’m busy.

The kiddos help with that too. If I haven’t reached my target count for the day, they tend to turn into little task-masters and give me “that look” until I get going again.

GOD BLESS THEM! I couldn’t do any of it without them!

Do you need more Balance in your life? Would you consider implementing these suggestions into your own life? Would you tell us about it?

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