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What is in God’s Word? # 1: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same?

1606986_430219043748235_1965803363_nI posted the below message on Facebook about a week ago with this picture (The picture was a share from Growing Home)

I think this may be where the whole thing about women being equal to men came from – The point that we were made from his side to be equal to him…
One thing I never understood is this: Why does equal have to mean “exactly” the same.
4+1 = 2+3
They come out to the same thing but they get there a different way. They look the same. They’ll add up or subtract just as easily and they can both be flipped one way or the other but they are different.
Men and Women are different.
PERIOD.
I don’t know about you but I would MUCH rather have a man who respects me (pays for dinner/movie with NO expectations) and romances me (opens doors for me and lets me go through first, buys flowers/chocolates for no other reason that “just because”) than a job where I make the same $$ as the guy next to me. Of course that’s all moot for me anyway because I’m one of the weird moms who actually enjoys staying at home with her children and WANTS to be a wife and mother before I want to be ANYTHING else.

Since this is my blog and blogs are meant to be expanded a bit, I will expand on this thought here.

Years ago, someone decided that men and women are equal and they should be treated equally. I have several problems with this basic concept but I’ll get into those later on…

First let me continue with the question: “Why does equal have to mean EXACTLY the same?”

And this gets a bit into my problem with the basic concept anyway…

Above I pointed out that you have 2+3 and they equal the same thing as 4+1. The equations themselves are vastly different however they both come out to the same thing. You can flip them around (2+3 = 1+4) (3+2 = 4+1) (3+2 = 1+4) (2+3 = 4+1) (1+4 = 2+3) (4+1 = 3+2) (4+1 = 2+3) ( 1+4 = 3+2) many different ways and they will ALWAYS come out to the same thing.

Any combination of 2+3 and 4+1 will equal 5. It’s a mathematical certainty. People are the same way. A woman who wears glasses is no less a woman than one who doesn’t. A man who wears a hearing aid is no less a man than another who doesn’t. A man with blue eyes sees things around him in the same way as the man with brown eyes and a woman who is 5 feet tall still stands the same as a woman who is eight inches taller. Being shorter does not make her less of a woman – unless we’re judging volume of course. (Hey… that was a joke)

Anyway, I guess I better get to the point.

The point being that boys and girls are different. And that’s NOT a bad thing.

It’s a good thing.

God made us that way. And that’s how He means for us to be. He has a specific plan for us and it works out best for everyone if we accept it and follow God’s design.

Personally I like the sound of a Proverbs 31 woman…not just for myself, but for my sweet little boy. I want him to have the kind of woman who enjoys being a wife and mother.

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Waiting for God to send my Prince Charming

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All my life I have been laughed at and berated for being a “hopeless romantic” and I am so thrilled to find out, all these years later, that THEY were wrong, not me!

From the crib we are taught conflicting “truths” about love, romance and marriage. And I, for one, am sick of it. I am positively thrilled to have discovered the actual truth! And I am so glad I can now pass on that truth to my sweet little Princess.

Little girls grow up watching Disney movies, television shows and “chick flicks” that are all about romance and happy endings. Then, when it comes time for us to consider dating or marriage, we’re told that the movies and shows we grew up loving are just fairy tales. Life and love don’t really work that way…

Oh yeah?

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” Ephesians 5:25

That one verse says it all, ladies. A husband is supposed to love his wife in the same way Christ loved AND loves the church! He loved the church (us) so much that he died for us. And not in the “I’m jumping in front of the bullet” or “I’m pushing you out of the way of the speeding car” way but in a planned, pre-ordained, destined way that he knew from before the beginning of time he was going to do.

That is love.

In fact, it is a love that we, as mere mortals, cannot possibly understand. And this is most likely the reason we misuse, abuse and misinterpret love so often. We don’t understand what it means to love someone that much. How could we really? We think in terms of years or maybe even decades. We could not possibly look at time the same way God does. Otherwise the concept of eternity would not be the puzzle it is for so many of us.

How did I come to this truth so suddenly? I mean, I must have heard that verse read at least a dozen times through the years. I’ve read the verse myself multiple times. So why didn’t I get it?

I blame conditioning.

We are conditioned by society to believe that the relationships we want deep in our hearts and souls are no more than fairy tales. Our friends, family, teachers in school, ministers at church, doctors, counselors (the list goes on and on) tell us not to expect this sort of love from a relationship in reality.

Do yourself a favor. Don’t listen to any more “helpful” advice. Read your bible and pray. Ask your parents to pray. Ask your friends to pray. Pray for yourself and for your future spouse.

Don’t date. Give courting a try. Think it sounds old-fashioned or crazy? Ask yourself what the most popular form of “dating” is today? Group dating is the “new” way to date! It’s safer. It’s more fun. It’s the easiest way to get your friends to approve of a guy or girl you think you are interested in. This is a form of courting.

Courting really is the most intelligent dating form. You have a chance to get to know a person and you have people backing you up, opinion-wise BEFORE you get your emotions and hormones involved.

Broken hearts are not fun… not for anyone. And courtship is the best way to avoid a broken heart, shattered dreams and divorce.

God did not design us to fall in and out of love over and over again. He did not design us to be abused or taken advantage of. Our hearts are the most vulnerable to deception. That is why we must guard them so fiercely. Our emotions and hormones are willing accomplices in that deception. This is why it is so important to make relationship decisions with prayer and council first.

Young women: God wants you to be with a man who will love you – as he loves you, a man who will care for you and show you just how special you are to him, and a man who will cherish you – because you are precious and rare.

Don’t settle for any less than what you deserve! Hold out for that white knight! You’ll be glad you did!

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God Bless You!

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